Woman, 39, worries that she is 'too old' to have a baby and fears she is 'being selfish'

08.12.2022 - 13:19 / dailyrecord.co.uk

A 39-year-old woman is worrying that she is 'too old' to give birth to a baby. The would-be mother says she is trying for a child but wonders if she is being 'selfish', reports Hull Live.

She took to social media to garner others opinions on the topic having done her own research on older women having children. Posting on an popular parenting forum, she says she is concerned by the fact that she would be a pensioner by the time her potential child would be 30.

The woman said: "Just wanted to get a littler perspective from people around my age. I am 39 trying for first baby but reading articles etc makes me wonder am I too old and being selfish.

"Thoughts like when I am 49 my child will be 10, 59 - 20. " She also expressed concern about being the oldest 'mum at school'.

The woman added: "Will I be the oldest mum at school, clubs, as an only child is it fair for it to have parents in their 70s 80s rather than in their 30/40s? [The] thing is up until recently we weren't ready to have a child?

"I wondered if anyone else had gone through this? Most of my friends had children earlier."

The woman's post sparked up a conversation on the forum, with many people quick to give their thoughts on her dilemma. Many older mums reassured the woman that there are many positives to having children later in life.

One person said: "I am 42 and have a 15 month old. It is harder this time round as I would love a little more sleep.

"However, my other son is 22 so I was young and full of energy back then. Seriously, I think it depends on you, your support network, fitness and happiness.

"It all keeps you young." Another person added: "I had my first two boys at 21 and 23 and my third son at 37.

"I find I'm a lot more relaxed now and don't stress