they’re the victims in her Spanish heritage debacle — whining that the scandal has been “a lot for her,” a new report says.The clueless celebrity couple is “very upset” that her cultural identity and background even “are being questioned” and remain “deeply affected” by the controversy, a source told “Entertainment Tonight.““Hilaria is such a soft-spoken, kind, caring and loving person, and the harassment and hate that she has been receiving on social media has been a lot for her,” the source