10 Reasons to Not Date Musicians (or DJs): They’re Fun, But Trouble
26.09.2023 - 14:01
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Travel blog by Travels of Adam (Hipster Blog) – Travels of Adam (Hipster Blog) - Travel & Lifestyle Hipster Blog Listen to this… I’m attracted to creative types. Every one of my dating profile bios says I’m “interested in creative types” and I’ve had my fair share of relationships with creative guys—from musicians to writers, artists and poets. But if there’s one thing I’ve learned from my relationships with creative boys is that they’re trouble.
Sure, they’re a lot of fun in the moment. And their creativity and words can have a special way of breaking down barriers and making you feel seen in ways you never knew before. But, in my experience, unless you’re willing to sacrifice a lot in whatever type of relationship you want, it’s a tough journey.
I still cling to the idea of dating and being with a creative type, but my mind shifted recently on a cool summer night. A boy I’ve loved stood in my apartment and played me a song. He’d just recorded it the same day with his bandmates.
I could see the excitement in his eyes, hear it in his voice. “Listen to this,” he said. He pulled out his phone and started playing it.
His voice singing alongside the woman who fronts the band sounded nice; the music, a little rough. The words, though. I could tell they were his.
He’s a songwriter after all. The song lyrics were about a boy—a lost love. I was standing there in my apartment next to a boy I confusingly still was clinging to with all my love and attention, and the words—they weren’t about me.
It was about an older relationship of his, a boy he still visits and spends money to go out of his way to see and talk to and spend time with. And me, the fool. In love with a guy who has no words, no lyrics, for whatever our relationship is
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