‘There’s No Way I Could Leave the Twins So Early in Their Lives’
29.09.2022 - 13:31
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Diana Carhart, 31, lives in Salem, Oregon, with her wife, Erin, and their twins, Genevieve and Langston, now three months. She comes from a performing arts background and, before the birth of the twins, was working in a local organic supermarket. Diana wanted to take at least six months off but had no paid leave.Return to the main article.I remember looking at my twins when they were a week old and knowing I would take a bullet for them.
There isn’t anything I wouldn’t do for them. They are perfect, and incredible. And I am so grateful we have them.
If there was ever a day where they sat me down, say, 10 or 15 years from now and told me they wanted to change their name or share something about their identity, there’s nothing I wouldn’t do to support them. I hope they always feel safe to tell me how they feel, and I’m always receptive and able to course-correct, if needed.My father, whom I was extremely close to, died in December 2020, and the money he left me helped us pay for the IVF for our twins (a lot is also on our credit cards)—one twin is biologically mine, and one is my wife Erin’s. I feel blessed that we live in a world where this was possible.When I was pregnant, I knew I wanted to be at home with the babies for as long as possible, but financially that was not an easy decision to make, especially as I had no paid leave.
And even though my salary at the supermarket wasn’t huge, it came with a discount on groceries and vitamins. But after the babies were born and I stopped receiving any salary, I felt much less beholden to work. My approach has had to be: “Well, I’m currently not receiving a paycheck, so can I continue with my budget as it is, moving forward?” And just a few weeks ago, when my unpaid Family and
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